• AMAZON STOREFRONT
  • WALMART FAVS
  • FOOD
    • APPETIZERS
    • BREAD
    • BREAKFAST
    • DRINKS
    • SIDE DISHES
    • SNACKS
    • SWEETS
    • DINNER
  • DISCOUNT CODES
  • INFERTILITY SUPPORT
  • OUR INFERTILITY STORY
    • FROZEN EMBRYO TRANSFER (Current Cycle!!)
    • BEGINNING OF OUR INFERTILITY JOURNEY
    • 3RD ROUND OF IVF
    • THE IVF CYCLE THAT WORKED – WHAT WAS DIFFERENT
    • TWIN PREGNANCY
    • BIRTH STORY
  • SIGN UP FOR TEXTS
  • Nav Social Menu

    • Facebook
    • Instagram
    • Pinterest
    • Twitter
    • YouTube

A Slice of Style

  • About
  • Contact
  • Blog Posts
    • Fashion
    • Amazon
    • Walmart Favorites
    • Skincare
    • Home Decor
    • Family
    • To My Beautiful Child
    • Travel

I Wanted to Quit Our FET and Then I Didn’t and What I Learned

FROZEN EMBRYO TRANSFER (Current Cycle!!)· Infertility

10 Feb

To my beautiful child,

There are some things I don’t want to forget so let’s start with those. Your sister Goldie and your brother Harris have been ADORABLE. I’ve felt kind of awful this week, especially Sunday night, and I went to bed right when we got back from the ranch and dinner at Gram Gram and Pop Pop’s house. Daddy got them ready for bed and they kept coming into my room and checking in on me. They woke up at different times on Monday morning and the first thing both of them did was ask how I was doing and if I was feeling better. It was SO SWEET! I had been concerned about the age gap between you and them for a while and I haven’t been one bit concerned these last few months because they are my little buddies! They are so much more independent now and are learning what it’s like to contribute to the family, including being supportive of their mama. I LOVE them! 

I have been VERY bloated this week due to the Estradiol Valerate shots and not only that, but my boobs have also been super sore. It’s like I’m pregnant…except I’m not. Fun times 😉 Goldie on the other hand has been thrilled that I’m bloated because it looks like I’m pregnant. She will gently touch my belly and talk to me so sweetly. She will say things like, “Mom’s belly is getting prepared for the baby.” It’s the best thing that has ever happened to her and it’s the cutest thing on the planet to get to witness her excitement about it. The headmaster at their school is also pregnant and Goldie goes and gives her and the baby (her belly) a hug every time she sees her. Yesterday as we were walking out, she said, “I have to be very gentle when I hug Miss D.” Seeing Goldie and Harris and how much they care about me is a huge plus to having an age gap because they get to experience it with me! It’s like it’s Team Parcell doing this together. I love it.

Okay, shall we move onto the things that I DO want to forget? Ba ha ha ha jk. I think we learn in each hard experience and it’s our task to draw out the lessons learned and the characteristics built in our souls from the trials. I wanted to stop doing this whole embryo transfer on Tuesday. Back story: I’d been feeling AWFUL since Sunday. So nauseous and probably more bloated than I ever have been before. I had taken Diclegis on Monday night which is a nausea medicine I took while pregnant with the twins and my IVF coordinator said it was fine to take. It has Unisom in a it which aids in sleep and it lasted for 24 hours for me! I felt like I had been knocked out by NyQuil so by the time my mom came over for a lunch visit on Tuesday, I was spent! I told her I wasn’t sure why I thought this was a good idea because I did NOT like feeling THIS bad. She was awesome. I think it’s good to have a great support system of people who know you. I had felt so good about the decision just two weeks prior and she brought me back to that. I can trust myself from two weeks. You know, the girl that wasn’t having her hormones manipulated yet and had made the decision from a more sound mind.

She also reminded me that I always have a hard time when I am physically unwell. I like to control my life (don’t we all?) but I’m a bit more extreme when it comes to controlling I guess because it drives me crazy when none of my efforts are helping me feel better. It gave me clarity to pause and think about what’s really happening and what I can learn from my circumstance. I don’t think, in general, that most people escape physically feeling awful at one point or another due to illness or injury in their lives. Typically they’re not as distraught about it, though, because they are more accepting of the fact that it’s just a part of life. For me sometimes, I’m so annoyed and inconvenienced that I’m a human. Ha! It’s like my limitless spirit is trapped inside this very limited body and I just get so annoyed about it. But then I thought this week, obviously God knew what He was doing when he sent us to Earth in our very frail and high maintenance bodies. We had things to learn and characteristics to gain that could only be learned this way. So I stepped back and stopped resisting. I thought, “What can I learn by being in this body that is hurting right now?” And I stopped trying to manipulate how I felt physically and just accepted that I wasn’t feeling my best and that I probably wouldn’t be for months.

Another thing I learned about myself is that my mind tends to panic when I am suffering and go to the worst case scenario (which may help people but does not help me because I can think of some pretty horrific worst case scenario’s that none of us want to be involved in…). So for me, trying to stay in the present moment and being like, “Oh, I can do this right here right now. I don’t think I could do this forever but this won’t last forever so I am good.” That helps me a lot. 

I got to speak with Emily Belle Freeman on her Inklings Institute Instagram Live this morning and we discussed this talk “Is There No Balm in Gilead?” by Elder Brent H. Nielson and it gave me some really great perspective. Like Brent’s dad and like the men who brought their friend through the roof to Jesus to be healed, and like me when I’m so annoyed that I’m not feeling well, we are coming to Jesus to be a healed physically and what he is really doing though the trial and what we learn through it is healing our spirits. Making us who we want to be but may not even know yet. It’s beautiful.

So, all this to say that I’m grateful for all of the learning that I am doing (even when it’s against my will…ha!) because I know it’s all for my good. I trust my Creator enough to trust that he will give me the power that I need to create and live as He would have me live. As Moroni shares the words of his father Mormon, “And Christ hath said: aIf ye will have bfaith in me ye shall have power to do whatsoever thing is cexpedient in me.” So if I indeed trust that my Creator made me, then I can also relax into the faith that He will give me enough strength to accomplish what it is that I need to accomplish in my life. I’m not behind. This isn’t getting in the way of what I’m supposed to be accomplishing. He’s got me.

He’s got you, too.

xx

Mama

frozen embryo transfer

Snuggling with my babies when I wasn’t feeling well. I love that I have Team Parcell with me!

I highly recommend leggings and a shirt that’s at least 4 sizes bigger than your normal size for infertility treatments because you might be super bloated and need the extra comfort. Also, if you find the person that invented leggings, give them a fist bump for me, a knowing wink, and find out what their address is so I can send them a personal thank you card.

self care during ivf self care during ivf

Finding the sunshine! For me, I know that living in Utah in the winter is my actual hell (unless I’m skiing) so I’ve GOT to find the Vitamin D when I can! Again, it feels inconvenient to be a human, but here I am regardless 😉 Very high maintenance. We all are. It’s just part of being a human. I have to create ways to give my body and mind what they need and getting in the sunshine (even if it’s 32 degrees) is one way I do that. Plus, it doesn’t feel that cold when it’s not windy, and I have a little spot on my balcony that feels like California if I close my eyes are get VERY creative and lie to myself so we’re making it happen over here.

bloating from frozen embryo transfer bloating from frozen embryo transfer frozen embryo transfer

The bloating. Fun times. And by fun times, I mean I would highly not recommend being this bloated and yet here we are. Ha! It’s just part of the process and I guess I’m going to accept it because it’s either that or be even more miserable than I already am. Don’t like that choice. And lucky for me, I’m learning from this body that I’m in and I’m grateful that God gave me this experience.

Related Posts

  • What I Learned in 2016

    2016 was undoubtedly my biggest year yet. HUGE! I think…

  • Frozen Embryo Transfer: We're Really Doing It!

    To my beautiful child, I mean, here's the thing. The…

  • 30 Things I've Learned in 30 Years

    Scary! I was on the "Panteras" dance team in high…

  • Frozen embryo transfer process featured by top infertility blog, A Slice of Style
    To My Beautiful Child: Frozen Embryo Transfer!

    To my beautiful child, The night before the frozen embryo…

Leave a Comment

Previous Post: « The Food and Product Changes I’m Making to Change my Life
Next Post: IVF Nausea + Neupogen + Are We Implanting a Boy or Girl Embryo?! »

Reader Interactions

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Recipe Rating




Primary Sidebar

Let’s Connect

  • Instagram
  • Pinterest
  • YouTube

MEET JENICA

 

My name is Jenica and I'm so glad that you're here! I started this blog in 2014 to share the best deals on the nicest things because I believe we all deserve to live the best life on less. Read more...

Search

A Slice of Style Newsletter

get latest updates, new releases, & exclusive tips and deals straight to your inbox!

Latest Favs

Latest Videos

Shop My Instagram Pictures!

  • About
  • Infertility & Pregnancy
  • Motherhood
  • Recipes
  • Privacy Policy

jenicaparcell

✨ Coach for women w/ infertility + @fearless.infertility podcast host
✨ affordable fashion
✨ mom to IVF twins + baby boy
✨ [email protected]

Jenica Parcell | Infertility Support | Affordable Fashion
#ad You think you’re getting a good night’s sl #ad You think you’re getting a good night’s sleep, but you continue to wake up feeling unrested and aren’t sure why.

Your spouse notices you are snoring and they can’t get their own good night’s sleep by sleeping in the same room.

Neither option is any fun for anyone involved!

Snoring can be a symptom. Sleep apnea is where your throat closes off while you are sleeping, which does not allow for proper oxygen flow to your brain, thus leaving you tired the next day….and leaving your spouse sleepless as well.

And we all know that a CPAP machine is not the most user-friendly experience out there…

Enter @Soundsleepmedical. They have created an appliance that gives you sound sleep. The device holds your jaw slightly forward when you sleep so your airway is not blocked at all, and you wake up feeling refreshed and your spouse can sleep back in the same room as you.

Quality of life and a happy spouse is a win-win.

Be sure to use the link in my bio to schedule your free sleep screening. You can use code JENICA to receive a free sleep screening, which includes an in-office consultation and at-home sleep test, along with $50 off your oral appliance.

Sweet dreams my friends.
I cannot BELIEVE it was only a short year ago that I cannot BELIEVE it was only a short year ago that I was deciding if I could handle doing another frozen embryo transfer…and now LOOK at him 🥹 It was one of the hardest years of my entire life. Going through things I don’t wish on anyone. But look at us now 😭 And looking internally…the things I’ve learned.

Tell me about something a year ago for you that you didn’t know you’d get through and can’t believe you are where you’re at 🤍👇🏻 #infertilityjourney #ivfsuccess #frozenembryotransfer
This is it. Not just in motherhood, although moth This is it.

Not just in motherhood, although motherhood really amplifies it, but in life.

It’s the fast days that are loud and sunny.

It’s the slow days that are quiet and snowy.

The mismatched pajamas and the dressed to the nines.

It’s the mess.

It’s the organization and order.

It’s the to-do list that gets crossed off and the to-do list that doesn’t.

It’s in the allowing of both.

It’s in perhaps preferring one over the other, but not judging either.

It’s in the wisdom that both will pass and each have lessons to teach.

Neither is wrong.

Both are allowed.

This is it.

#infertilityjourney #ivfsupport #infertilitysupport #infertilitycommunity
It might feel impossible in the middle of it and y It might feel impossible in the middle of it and you might question everything.

“I have no idea what the future will bring.”

“Will everything I’m putting myself through be worth it?”

“What am I doing?”

“Am I making the right choice?”

But your moments will come. Trust that and let it bring you peace.

The alternative is feeling anxious, which is also completely acceptable and normal, but remember that you also have the option of trusting and feeling peace, too. There is room for both.

You’re not alone in this 🤍

#infertility #ivfjourney #infertilityjourney #infertilitysupport #infertilitycoach #infertilitycommunity
It was a year ago that I decided to jump into the It was a year ago that I decided to jump into the deep, black ocean of IVF again. I knew what I was doing this time and I was filled with fear because…I knew.

When I found out I was pregnant, the fear was my secret. Only a close few knew.

And this space was filled with tears, uncertainty…soul reaching prayers.

Sleepless nights, gut wrenching heartache.

Secrets that I hold close to my heart.

And then he came.

And the healing began.

And the mama, this mama, knew she did it.

That black ocean had swallowed her whole and she’d do it again for the light that is him.

Once she swam to the surface, and jaggedly gasped in the fresh air and felt the sunshine on her face, she knew she would do it all over again.

For this sacred chaos.

Tonight as I was moving the bassinet out of my room, I stopped. The room will soon be cleared. The shelves emptied and the order restored. And I can’t believe that the ocean was conquered. The chaos was where I found the strength and the beauty.

The sacred, precious chaos.

#infertility #infertilityawareness #ivfjourney #ivfpregnancy #ttccommunity #ttcjourney #ttcsisters #ttctribe
FEEL BETTER and get healthy this year starting tod FEEL BETTER and get healthy this year starting today in the 7-week LEAN program with daily accountability and the “why” behind the actions you’re taking for LIFETIME health and wellness (not just a quick fix that will leave you frustrated, confused and looping again and again).

This is NOT the all or nothing strategy that you’re used to.

Yes, you can eat the things you love still!

No, you won’t feel guilty.

Sign up today for the Jan. 16th start date and use code JENICA (any time) for $10 off! Amanda will put us in a group together so we can check in every day.

I’m excited for you to experience this! LEAN program link in my bio. #healthandfitness #weightlosshelp #wellnesscoach
I know you’re independent, I know you’re capab I know you’re independent, I know you’re capable, I know you can conquer anything…BUT you were never meant to do all of this alone. 🤍

Allow yourself to be supported.

Are you denying help anywhere? Are you not asking for support where you could?

Is this hard for you? Is this easy for you? Tell me below! 🤍 #fearlessinfertilityschool #infertilitysupport
It’s a big deal. You’re a big deal! Just sayin It’s a big deal. You’re a big deal! Just sayin’ 👊🏼💪🏼👏🏻 #slowclap #yourenotalone #infertilitysupport
Load More... Follow on Instagram

Copyright © 2023 · Refined theme by Restored 316

We are using cookies to give you the best experience on our website.

You can find out more about which cookies we are using or switch them off in settings.

A Slice of Style
Powered by  GDPR Cookie Compliance
Privacy Overview

This website uses cookies so that we can provide you with the best user experience possible. Cookie information is stored in your browser and performs functions such as recognising you when you return to our website and helping our team to understand which sections of the website you find most interesting and useful.

Strictly Necessary Cookies

Strictly Necessary Cookie should be enabled at all times so that we can save your preferences for cookie settings.

If you disable this cookie, we will not be able to save your preferences. This means that every time you visit this website you will need to enable or disable cookies again.