To my beautiful child,
I was excited on Tuesday when I realized that I could combine the 4 powders of Bravelle and 1 powder of Menopur into one syringe…until I noticed yesterday that I am supposed to take the Bravelle in the morning and the Menopur at night. Um…my bad? I called my nurse and she said I didn’t mess things up (what a relief!) but that they recommend separating them so that my body can process them better. At least I was temporarily elated that I would only have to take 2 shots every day this week instead of 3. I mean, that counts for something right?
I had a blood draw today to make sure that I’m taking the right doses of medication and I got to see one of my favorite nurses (hi, Ashley!) She is the best hugger. When I had my first appointment with our current doctor, she hugged me on my way out and I just started sobbing. She hugs like she means it! I hope that’s the kind of hugger that I am 🙂
Today I was on-another-level EXHAUSTED. I seriously almost started crying at the chiropractor tonight because I was SO TIRED. Oh, man. It seriously gets comical at times. I also did acupuncture tonight and he put a few needles in to help with energy. He is also doing this thing called “body coding” or something like that where I hold out my arm and he asks questions about issues, and then presses on my arm and my arm tells him yes or no if that’s what is effecting my fertility. Ba ha! It sounds like hocus pocus. He gets into emotional and physical issues and then rubs this thing down my back to clear the issues. Like I said before…I’ll try anything. Next thing you know I’ll be talking to a troll under a bridge…
I find myself getting ahead of myself sometimes and worrying about the future. What if this doesn’t work? And even worse, what if it does and then I have a miscarriage? It’s so common in your first few weeks. I’ve had several sweet women reach out to me and let me know that’s what has happened to them. But they’re strong and keep moving forward, like we all have to do. When I start having those thoughts, I have to stop myself and literally say something like this, in my head of course. At least I think I always say it in my head 😉 “Jenica, God has a plan for you. You are learning and growing and experiencing what he wants you to experience. He loves you and He’s watching over you.”
One of the things I want to teach you when you’re here with us is that we all have challenges in life and life is so much easier if we look at the benefits to us in each circumstance. If I didn’t experience infertility, I wouldn’t have met so many incredible women who are also experiencing it. I have met some amazing friends because of it. I have connected with strangers. I have become stronger, and I’ve become more compassionate and empathetic. I now truly understand that sometimes people treat you a certain way or act a certain way and it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with a struggle that they are experiencing internally. I’ve learned to become less judgmental and slower to get my feelings hurt. If I didn’t have to struggle to get you here, I wouldn’t have the opportunity to become better. I am so very, very grateful for what I have learned.
I went to a really fun event last night for a company called Jane, and I met the kindest woman who is also struggling with infertility. It’s so good to be able to embrace those that are experiencing what you are. It’s good for your soul, I think. God puts these people in our lives, I have no doubt of that.
When I got home from the chiropractor and acupuncture tonight, I switched into sweats, turned on the fire, and ate an English muffin on my fanciest plate because that’s literally all that was clean. I also had an apple (trying to be sort of healthy…) and cereal right out of the bag. I snuggled up on the couch and watched TV for a bit. When your dad got home, he gave me a big kiss then spent the next 30 minutes doing the dishes and cleaning the kitchen while I watched TV. He’s a good man. He tells me that he loves me but I already know because his actions speak so loudly.
I’m now going to take a bath and put on a golden face mask that was sent to me. Ha! I’ll try to take a picture without dropping my phone in the water. I seriously cannot get enough baths lately. I’m going to put on the Gregory Alan Isakov Pandora station and smile because life is oh, so good. And then I’m going to get out of the bath and give myself the Menopur shot and get a big hug from your dad to make me feel better.
You’re worth it!
Tonight’s acupuncture session. I couldn’t even feel the needle in my stomach, but I could in my feet. This was to help “draw the energy” up. I was kind of half asleep, I’m not going to deny that.
Such a great positive message during your rough journey. I always remind myself that God cares more about your character than your comfort. Prayers for your IVF journey. XO
Jenica Parcell says
I LOVE this!! Thank you so much for sharing that with me. I'm going to write that one down 🙂 xo
Oh man, this brings back so many memories! Just know you are not alone in the stress! I was stressed my whole pregnancy and didn't quite believe it had actually worked until my baby was in my arms. You can do it! You're handling it with so much grace and positivity – it's impressive and it makes me both smile and tear up to read your updates. Hugs and good vibes sent your way 🙂
Jenica Parcell says
Ahh thank you so much, Rachel! You just made my day. I'm so glad it worked for you! xo
You inspire me so much! Your attitude makes me want to be more positive!
My husband and I are struggling with infertility too, we've been trying for 15 months, and doing the whole clomid thing now. I was just wondering if you had any advice for us as a couple to keep our relationship strong during this hard time? I feel really alone in this sometimes.
Keep up the good work, I'm praying for you!
Jenica Parcell says
Oh you sweet thing! Thank you so much for your encouraging words. They mean a lot. I'll have to do a post sometime on how Tyler and I work together on this so I feel supported. It basically comes down to communication. I tell him how I feel supported, whether it be him just being there in the room when I'm giving myself the shots, or doing some sort of service to help make my day easier. Telling your husband what you need is key 🙂 I wish you all the best and will pray for you as well!! xo
Liz Fernandez says
all the positive thoughts to you!!
Jenica Parcell says
Thank you, Liz! xo
zombie naps are the best! I work night shift so I'm am constantly in zombie mode. It amazes me what a 30 minute nap can do. Oh and you look great girly!